This extract was taken from the website on Middle Child Personality. It is a medium for middle borns to share their childhood and family experiences, what it was like growing up as a middle child, and what has it gotten them to today.
“It still isn’t easy for me to be emotionally honest with my mum because I feel betrayed by how she didn’t help me when I was 8. I am turning 20 next month. I am trying, but maybe it’s just me, but I can’t be emotionally honest with a lot of people, especially those whom I care for.
Maybe it’s because my feelings were dismissed when I was younger, maybe it’s because my parents seemed to prefer the opinions of my siblings instead.
But whatever it is, I realize that I find comfort in small groups of friends. And these people let me believe that I am worthy.
And yes, I am the black sheep of the family. I am not going to university, I party, I drink, I stay out late. I don’t have a conventional job (I am a journalist) and I stick out like a sore thumb, especially in my extended family.
But who cares? Acquaintances tell me that I am lucky that my job is essentially my interest. and how many people have the opportunity to make a living by doing what they love?
I got that chance, because I accepted myself. I am happy being the middle child because I chose to believe in the good things.”
I must warn you that some of these posts can be quite depressing, as some contributors have had thoughts of suicide, were bullied in school, and often felt neglected or even mistreated by their parents. My advise is to take these with a pinch of salt.
My point of this extraction is not to lead you to a website which seems all gloomy and depressing. Rather I would like to stress on the strengths of the middle child birth order traits. They are often swept aside because they are difficult to define, as they adopt their birth order traits depending on the values they observe in their first born and last born siblings. Amanda had a rough time as a child, but despite all these negativity, she has found strength and happiness. I believe that one day she will be able to open up her heart and forgive her mom.
Within each middle child and his birth order traits there will always be a story, and a mystery waiting to be unraveled.