The middleborn’s birth order traits are hard to define, and they are often a mysterious group of people.
Resources on birth order traits do not cover much about the middle born, leaving them a neglected group of people, as they have grown up being.
A middleborn is commonly defined as the middle of 3 of 4 children, as is the number of children the average modern family has. A firstborn is raised under somewhat strict parental guidance, and adheres to rules and laws, not appreciating deviation and change. A middle child grows up being the baby, the youngest in the family for a while, enjoying some relaxed rules, and soon after gets dethroned by the next child in line, who takes over as the baby of the family, and rules are even more relaxed!
Suddenly the middle born is no longer the baby, but an elder sibling. He/she has to adapt to looking after a younger sibling, which may not be very receptive for a young child who has enjoyed the protection from his/her elder sibling and parents.
As is commonly assumed, the middleborn birth order traits involve feeling neglected and left out. He/she often loses a sense of belonging to the family and is usually the first out of the other siblings to leave home. They seek friends and form loyal friendships, a way of compensating for the lack of belonging to home, and also because they feeling appreciated and noticed with friends. This is also why the firstborn tends to value family relationships more.
Some sources have also cited that middle borns birth order traits also include low-esteem and feel depressed. But few have failed to look on the other side of the coin instead of predicting on the morbid future of a middleborn.
The middleborn grew up being stuck in between, and have learnt to be quite adaptable.
They watch how their eldest sibling gets parental attention through pleasing the adults and following rules, while observing the youngest ones bring delight to their parents with their funny antics and adventurous personality traits. They watch carefully what works and what doesn’t, and eventually adapts into a mixture and balance of both the birth order traits. They also dislike conflicts, and often are peacemakers. This is probably the more obvious middle born birth order trait, if you can even sniff it out!
The positive (and often unnoticed) middleborn birth order traits adaptable skills and is often a master is social settings. When he/she forms relationships, you can be sure you’re getting a loyal friend whom you can trust. Being appreciated by friends and being noticed helps boost the self-esteem, although sometimes they do need a nudge in the right direction.
The middleborn is probably the best personality to be married with. They do not go head-on during conflicts, and try to mediate a resolution. Their adaptive trait allows them to give in to their partners, which can save a lot of unnecessary arguments.
Siblings all want to carve a niche for themselves and differentiate themselves from one another in order to gain parental attention and for the middleborn, the best way for him/her to do it was to be a good a blend of the other 2 birth orders.
It is always easier to identify firstborn and lastborn birth order traits, but when it comes to the middleborn birth order traits it perhaps takes another middleborn to recognize one from a crowd.